Just have to say something

More and more online I find a saying that rubs my spirit the wrong way. The words are not always the same but the message is the same. If you find someone in your life who is toxic you can walk away from that relationship.

The first thing I wonder when I read that is What Would Jesus Do? I'm so glad that when I become a "toxic" person my husband, parents, children, and Christ don't give up on me.

I think we all go through phases of depression, anger, frustrations, etc... and while I understand that we don't need to stay in unhealthy relationships, I have also heard many say that they needed to walk away from their responsibilities toward their spouse, parent, or child because the relationship was toxic. At what point did we become people who give up on our loved ones? Because of different religious or other types of views? What makes it ok to say to your spouse of 15 years that  you can no longer be married or keep the promises of marriage because they are too toxic? I think the message we are sending to the next generation is that it's perfectly fine to walk away from our responsibilities and family relationships because we deem them as toxic.

I think there are times when people are removed from our life, by their own choice and it's probably a good idea to not chase after them, but even in that situation, where is the hand of friendship, compassion, unconditional love towards that person. I have had people move away from me, and in some cases I knew that it was God's hand that there needed to be some distance. Do I remove them from my list of friends? of course not, I recognize it for what it is, send love and caring thoughts and prayers towards them and not let it bog me down. Yes I have people in my life I don't talk to much but mostly it's because we have grown apart and no longer have things in common. The "toxic" people? those who continually gripe and complain?

I have always maintained that as long as I do my part God will do his and if it is meant for that person to have a change of heart it will be so, if not then it will be what it is and by their own choices, then they will stand on the outside looking in. NOT because I pushed them away, but because there isn't any common ground.

Let's find unconditional love for our fellow man instead of judgement and labeling